Supporting Your Child's Mental Health: Early Signs to Watch For
Growing up can be a tumultuous journey for any young person. Like all humans, children and adolescents go through phases of difficulty, especially as they navigate the complex transitions from one developmental stage to another. Parents, understandably, may become concerned when they notice changes in their child's behaviour or emotional well-being. A period of emotional turmoil, such as low mood or changes in behaviour (like acting out), can naturally lead to questions about whether these changes indicate a deeper mental health issue that requires professional support.
It is important to remember that experiencing emotional ups and downs is a normal part of growing up. These challenges often present opportunities for young people to learn, build resilience, and strengthen relationships with their parents. However, sometimes these difficulties can escalate or persist, signalling that additional support might be beneficial.
As a clinical psychologist, I’m often asked by parents how they can tell if their child or young person might be experiencing mental health challenges that require professional help. Below are some signs to watch for:
Signs to Watch For:
- Persistent Withdrawal from Friends and Activities
If your child or young person consistently withdraws from friends or activities they once enjoyed, such as sports, reading, or socialising with others, this may be a sign that something is bothering them. Withdrawal can indicate emotional distress or a loss of interest due to depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns. - Loss of Appetite or Refusal to Eat
A noticeable change in eating habits, such as refusing to eat or significant weight loss, can be a symptom of anxiety, depression, or an eating disorder. These changes should not be ignored, especially if they persist over time. - Excessive Worry or Anxiety
Worrying is a natural part of life, but if your child’s anxiety is overwhelming and interferes with their ability to engage in daily activities, like attending school or spending time with friends, it may be time to seek help. Persistent anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms like stomachaches or headaches, or difficulties separating from a parent or caregiver, and it can impact a young person's overall functioning. - Self-Harm or Suicidal Thoughts/Behaviours
Any form of self-harm, including cutting or other harmful behaviours, is a serious sign that a young person may be struggling. Expressions of suicidal thoughts or behaviours should always be taken seriously, and immediate professional intervention is needed. - Heightened Aggression
If a child or adolescent displays heightened aggression towards others or animals, such as frequent fighting or damage to property, this may be a response to underlying emotional or behavioural issues. This could stem from feelings of frustration, anxiety, or even trauma, and it may require professional assessment and support. - Risk-Taking Behaviours
Risky behaviours, such as running away from home, experimenting with substances, or engaging in dangerous activities, can indicate that a young person is seeking to cope with emotional pain or internal conflict. These behaviours may be a cry for help or an attempt to feel control over their life. - Regression in Developmental Milestones
If a child, especially one who has previously mastered certain skills (like using the toilet), begins regressing, such as bedwetting or soiling, this may signal anxiety, trauma, or emotional distress. It’s important to address these behaviours in a compassionate, non-judgmental way.
What You Can Do:
If you notice these signs or have concerns about your child’s mental health, there are several steps you can take:
- Talk to Your GP: Your GP can be a first point of contact to discuss your concerns and may recommend further support or a referral to a psychologist or specialist.
- Seek Support on ParentLine: ParentLine offers support for parents who may be struggling with how to address their child’s mental health. They can offer guidance, resources, and advice.
- Talk to Your Child’s School: School counsellors or teachers can offer insight into your child’s behaviour in the school environment. They may also be able to provide resources or help with academic or emotional challenges.
- Book an Appointment with a Psychologist: Seeking professional help from a psychologist can provide your child with the tools and support they need to address their emotional difficulties. Early intervention can prevent more severe issues from developing and help strengthen the relationship between you and your child.
- Call Mental Health Psychiatric Triage: If you are concerned about your child’s well-being, especially if their behaviour seems to be escalating rapidly or they are in crisis, you can contact your local mental health psychiatric triage service. These services provide 24/7 support for individuals experiencing mental health crises, including children and adolescents. Psychiatric triage professionals can assess the situation, offer immediate guidance, and help connect your child to the appropriate level of care.
Remember, parenting a young person through emotional difficulties is not easy, but by recognizing the signs early and seeking support, you are giving them the opportunity to develop healthy coping mechanisms and resilience that will serve them for a lifetime.
